How to Lose Everything

My debut memoir How to Lose Everything is out now from Douglas & McIntyre!

Where to buy the book
Reviews, interviews, and press
The music in How to Lose Everything
Q&A videos with Christa

Where to buy the book

Order the book from and, or use the this list from Douglas & McIntyre to find a Canadian independent retailer near you.

Outside of Canada and the US, my favourite local bookshop, Another Story, is happy to fulfill international orders. You can buy from them here.

And in the US, the pub date is March 9, 2021. It will be worth the wait!

Also, stream or download all of the music I mention in the book here.


Christa Couture has come to know every corner of grief—its shifting blurry edges, its traps, its pulse of love at the centre and the bittersweet truth that sorrow is a powerful and wise emotion.

From the amputation of her leg as a cure for bone cancer at a young age to her first child’s single day of life, the heart transplant and subsequent death of her second child, the divorce born of grief and then the thyroidectomy that threatened her career as a professional musician, How to Lose Everything delves into the heart of loss. Couture bears witness to the shift in perspective that comes with loss, and how it can deepen compassion for others, expand understanding, inspire a letting go of little things and plant a deeper feeling for what matters. At the same time, Couture’s writing evokes the joy and lightness that both precede and eventually follow grief, as well as the hope and resilience that grow from connections with others.

Evoking Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking and Rachel Cusk’s A Life’s Work, Couture explores the emotional and psychological experiences of motherhood, partnership and change. Deftly connecting the dots of sorrow, reprieve and hard-won hope, How to Lose Everything contains the advice Couture is often asked for, as well as the words she wishes she could have heard many years ago. It is also an offering of kinship and understanding for anyone experiencing a loss.”

Reviews, interviews, and press

“How to Lose Everything: Christa Couture’s memoir about loss, strength, music, hope — and more loss”

REVIEW: Quill & Quire
“By exposing her greatest sources of grief, Couture shows that there is love and healing to be found in memory.”

INTERVIEW: 49th Shelf
“[How to Lose Everything] might be the wisest, most delightful sad story that you’ve ever read in your life.”

REVIEW: The Best BC-Books of 2020

REVIEW: The Best Canadian Non-Fiction of 2020

“…a remarkable book, and a remarkable conversation.”

“Piecing things together”: Christa Couture on how writing about loss helped her move forward

PREVIEW: 10 Buzzworthy Canadian Authors to Watch

REVIEW: Roots Music Canada
“…a testament to the strength, resilience and incredible humanity of its author, who embodies those traits in a way few of us ever will.”

INTERVIEW: Global Morning
“This Toronto woman has experienced more loss than most people do in a lifetime”

“Her debut memoir memoir details a life of extraordinary mental, emotional, and physical endurance.”

“The day Christa Couture lost her baby.”

INTERVIEW: Reframe Your Life
“…about the questions she gets asked most frequently, her story of loss and the writing process.”

EXCERPT: Best Health
“I decided to no longer be in disguise”

The music in How to Lose Everything

My songs are woven throughout my memoir How to Lose Everything — their lyrics, their origins, their connection to my life experiences. You can stream or download the songs mentioned in the book here:

Or download a zip folder here.

Q&A videos with Christa

Recorded during the online launch event with Hannah Sung, presented by Bad Girls Collective.